All the light

I don’t know about you, but it seems to me that it’s been a heavy, hard few weeks.

Between it feeling like the world is on fire, led by a Cheeto-hued man and some personal things I’ve been dealing with, it’s been a bit shit. 

​This morning I woke up early to get to the studio after a restless, anxiety filled sleep and my heart hurt. 

I stumbled through getting dressed, choked back tears in the drive thru for coffee and struggled with switching my internal track for the day.

I took a few deep breaths and let go of trying so hard to feel differently than I did in that moment. To just be with what was and not change it. 

As I crested the first hill on the backroad I take into town, the sunrise lit up the sky with the most perfect fire-orange hue. 

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I couldn’t help but think, how lucky am I to be up this early to catch this beautiful sky? To be able to see every colour and all the light? I wonder who else is sharing this moment with me? I watched in awe at this thing that happens every day whether we can see it or not. 

Boom. There it was. Exactly what I needed at the exact moment I needed it. 

Gratitude. 

It was nice to be reminded that sometimes its when we’re focused on the bigger, heavier, darker stuff it becomes difficult to see all the light. 

It becomes difficult to find reasons to remain grateful. 

But the best part about the dark, is the way you notice the light more when it does shine. It’s always there, even if not from our perspective in that moment. 

~ T.

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We’ll be right back

The Sisterhood is taking a mini-break from the blog to enjoy these last few days of summer vacation with our families, soaking up as much sun, fun and laughter as possible.

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We hope you’re all having the best summer and are looking forward to catching up with you all the first week of September.

Love,

~ The Weather Vane Sisterhood

When love is no longer served

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately as a soul sister of mine is not having the greatest time in her life. In fact it’s down right shitty for her right now.

With a tendency to absorb the hurt of the hearts I love, my heart is truly aching for her. It aches because I see so many of my own battles faced in her present circumstance and my empathy over flows for her. Her experiences have triggered some reflection of my own path and the relationships I have experienced, outgrown and moved on from. It is a bit easier from the place I am in currently to reflect honestly about each one and the person I was when involved in them. It is easier for me to see now what the root of the pain might be.

Without being too personal or airing details of their life that are not mine to share, the just of it is, needing to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served.

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This is a bitter, hard, transforming lesson. It is a lesson that can leave your heart hard if you’re not careful and create barriers around yourself that were not there before. Or, it can soften you through finding the strength to demand the people and energies in your life be good for you, good to you and feed your soul. If you let it, can catapult you into the wisdom of some of the most evolved souls where you won’t settle for less than you really deserve.

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Removing yourself from said proverbial table might need to happen anywhere in your life.

This could mean your job when your joy has been sucked from you and you no longer recognize why you do what you do. This could mean from a family member who refuses to work on the parts of your relationship that are weak and leaves you feeling abandoned more often than not, using words as weapons to lash out on you. This could be the emotionally draining friendship you’ve outgrown completely, yet continue to partake in only because of how long you’ve known each other. Or, it could be the partner who does not wish to look at their own demons in order to play kindly with yours and uses you as a verbal punching bag.

Whatever the case, you have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served. Or if it never really was and you’re finally waking up to the reality and dynamic of the relationship.

Sadly, no amount of love, effort, compliance, or attention can ever get these people to love you the way you deserve. Some people are just not meant to be in our lives. Some people will never know or learn how to love us and understand us. You could kill yourself going to the ends of the earth trying to show them how incredible you are and how deserving of love you are, and it still won’t change a damn thing. Not one fucking thing. That is the hard, awful, real truth.

You do not have to make excuses for removing these people from your life either. There should be no guilt in cutting ties to those that do more harm than good. Yes, one thousand times yes it is easier said than done. But when you start to pay attention to your energy and who it increases and decreases around, and who leaves you feeling lifted, or drained, you become a little more protective of it. Especially, well hopefully, as you age. When it is apparent that time is fleeting and passing faster and faster, it becomes more precious and you become more selective with who is given the most valuable thing you have to spend.

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Some of these ties you will feel need to be cut with an explanation that is usually more self serving than for the party you are outgrowing. You have things you need to say to them, need them to hear, need them to feel because you do. The cold truth though is that if they really cared, the behaviour or issue would have been addressable. If they cared when you told them that they were causing you harm, they would have loved you enough to work on it with you, or walked away from you recognizing that they did not serve you. The walking away part is usually reserved for a relationship with a base of respect though and you don’t always get that lucky. It is because the biggest act of love is always the truth. The act of showing someone exactly who you are and being aligned with your words in your actions enough that allows the person you love to either accept you fully or choose to walk away. We’re not always this lucky. In fact, it is becoming more and more rare.

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On the other hand, some of these ties need not a single word explanation and you just need to rip off the band aid by shutting the door in silence. This is the most powerful message that you can send, yet is not guaranteed to be received at all. They may not even notice you’re not there anymore. Which, while sad, should also be the loudest response to confirm you were right in your stand.

I think I’ve come to the realization that not everyone deserves to be witness to my life. Not everyone deserves my love and attention. In fact, as I get older I realize that very few really have the right intent in seeking it.

I still battle with this of course. Cutting people out seems heartless and cruel, but vitally necessary. I struggle too in doing so with people I want to believe love me or care about me, the ones I want to believe have my best interest at heart and means me no harm. Mostly people I want to believe are good for me because of how I feel about them. People I absolutely need to learn to get up from and walk away from because love is no longer being served.

But just as I will, she will get there in this lesson too. I have faith in hearts like ours. The ones that learn the hardest way possible, just to make sure the resulting wisdom is good and ingrained into our being so we change a little more each time, being challenged not to shut off our hearts for good.

Soul sister, I innately know that these storms are just here to wash you clean. Have faith in what is to come, keep hope in your heart and stay open, the way you’ve always been.

And most importantly know your soul’s growth depends on this act of getting up from the table when love is no longer being served.

~ Toni

We REALLY miss you

Oh beautiful readers, we miss you dearly!

Sorry we’ve been a little less than consistent lately – we’ve had a lot going on over here at the Sisterhood and we can’t wait to fill you in on all the excitement!

With only 17 days left in the countdown to Jacqui’s wedding, things are NUTTY to say the least.

We REALLY, REALLY do!

We REALLY, REALLY do!

We promise to write when we can and hope to be back to our regular schedule after the wedding bells have rang, and Jacqui is hitched!

Love,

The Weather Vane Sisterhood

Winner winner, chicken dinner!

Dear readers,

THANK YOU for a year of reading.

THANK YOU for a year of support.

THANK YOU for loving us.

THANK YOU for all of your comments and well-wishes!

THANK YOU.

With the help of Julia’s pyjama’d family, winners for all FIVE giveaways were picked!

Here are our winners:

Too Much Happiness by Alice Munro – Nicky

Yoga mat – Olen

Rustic country star – Susan

Hand-crafted accessories – Kim

Grand Prize (all four of the above prizes) – Dianne

To claim your prize, email us your address at weathervanesisterhood@gmail.com.

Again, THANK YOU.

And from us and our loves to you and yours, Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤ 

Valentine15 ~ The Sisterhood

Have yourself a merry little Christmas and an incredible New Year

‘Tis the night before the night before the night before Christmas and all through the Sisterhood last minute gifts are being purchased and wrapped, last shifts are being worked, last plans are being confirmed, and the last dregs of the year will be enjoyed.

We’ll be taking a break from posting until the New Year. You’ll find us back Monday January 5 with tales of a trip to an NFL game in Baltimore and other exciting news about how we spent our Christmas vacation.

Until then, stay safe, stay warm, stay in the love. Merry Christmas and happy New Year!

From all of us and ours to all of you and yours! <3

From all of us and ours to all of you and yours! ❤

Love, Weather Vane Sisterhood

Taking a break

Vacation

 

The Sisterhood have been inundated with huge projects at work, new jobs, losing jobs, losing their minds, and having to rebuild some family time for the past couple of weeks. We’re taking a wee break, just a week, to regroup, refresh, and reboot. We’ll be back Monday June 23 with more posts, more zaniness, more mouthiness, and more Sisterhood fun. Thank you for reading with us and bearing with us as we rest a little.

~ The Weather Vane Sisterhood