Trying to understand

A few weeks ago, I came across this:

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I have seen this quote or some iteration of it a few times before, but for whatever reason this time, it struck a chord with me.

It really got me thinking about the quality of the conversations I have with the people that matter.

Was I actually understanding what was being said, or was I busy thinking of  what to say next?

More importantly, in this go-go-go world, was I scared of the idea of not knowing what to say right away and pausing to really consume what was being said or shared with me?

I noticed it wasn’t just me that struggled with this concept of mulling over what was really being said, digging deeper and trying first to understand, secondly to converse.

I noticed it even more when a disagreement was brewing.

That got me thinking of how many arguments could have been avoided if this piece of wisdom was practiced more frequently. How many sorries could have been saved from having to be said?

Could relationships have been saved or outcomes changed? Could a friend’s call for help have been heard sooner? Could my circle of incredible friends and family feel more connected? Could Michael and I thrive even more?

The answer is most definitely.

I feel it’s part of this need I have to slow life down more lately, to take a step back and truly enjoy it.

I’m going to try the same with my conversations until it becomes second nature. I am guaranteed to not always agree, but I can at the very least take that step back and try to understand first.

~ Toni

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